How To Be The Perfect Mother
Remember when you imagined you’d be the perfect mother? (Or father!) Well, raising kids is a bitch. Social media can sure help us look like we’re doing things just right, or that EVERYBODY ELSE is! But by all means, let’s take a moment to read between the lines.
My kids drive me crazy. On the daily. Admittedly, I set the bar pretty high for myself. From a very young age, I conjured up a list of all the ways I’d be an amazing mother, and my kids and I would be besties, and surely their friends would want to be my besties too…it’s the signature of every cool mom.
How To Be The Perfect Mother
- Always say yes.
- Be funny. (Check!)
- Clean up after everyone.
- No curfew.
- Supply junk food.
- Listen to cool music.
- Host all the parties.
- Anything goes.
Note: You’re going to be disappointed!
And while I thought my plan was pretty flawless, turns out my parenting goals evolved as I started adulting,
Being an actual parent is a rude awakening. I, in fact, no longer care if my kids or their friends like me. It’s a PERK, but not a necessity. So to the many who profess that there’s nothing more important in life than your child’s happiness:
I call B.S.
Being healthy is my number one goal for my kids. If they are physically and mentally healthy– I promise, happiness will follow. That goes for us, too.
My second goal: not raising assholes. This is harder than it looks!
- I have a Master’s Degree in Education
- I’ve taught and coached first through eighth graders
- I ran a school for almost a decade
- My mind operates much like a child’s
- My primary job is to raise my kids
As someone who was once considered an expert in the field, I’ve done wonders for other people’s kids, but sometimes feel shortchanged when it comes to trying to raise my own well-balanced, non-entitled little buggers! If I can’t do it, You. Are. Screwed.
But alas, there is hope. Given the credentials I’ve built up as a PARENTING GODDESS, there are a few nuggets of wisdom that I can offer to assure you that you and I are on the right track, even when it doesn’t quite feel that way. Here’s a new, more modern recipe for How To Be The Perfect Mother, and raising healthy children along the way!
BEST OF INTENTIONS
Recipe For Success:
Put yourself in their shoes.
Apologize when you’re wrong.
Be a role model.
Let them fail.
Be there when they do.
Total Time: A lifetime
Be patient enjoy the ride.
Other Nuggets of Wisdom:
- Difficult kids often make the most progress. I promise they’re trying. If you take notice, the progress is there and the most challenging of kids can give the greatest return.
- The kids who need the most help, often ask in the most unpleasant ways.
- All kids want to be happy. If they’re not happy, something bigger is going on. It can be social, academic, something at home/school, anxiety, growing pains…and they often don’t know what it is.
- Kids love to hear about your mistakes growing up! It helps normalize theirs.
- Kids want you around. Simply being in the house (but out of their hair and business) is a hidden comfort to them.
- Share cheesy movies and music from your youth! It’s the perfect bonding experience.
- It’s okay to tell your kids that you don’t have the answers. It shows that you’re human, and still learning.
- You’re doing a great job!
I leave you with my perfect vision of my kids. A moment I cherish and blindly store in my head as what daily life is really like. And it’s okay. Because at the end of the day, I love them warts and all, and this is exactly what I want to remember. I’m doing it right. And so are you.